The Day After Christmas 2018 – A Reflection

We’re into the last week of 2018. Christmas has passed.

Well. Almost.

For me, there is still one more Christmas get together. It’s with my wife’s family. Which is big. Even with a few siblings in Colorado and Michigan who won’t be there the family that will be there, complete, with kids will be big. Presents will be exchanged. Food – lots of food – will be consumed. Finally, the gathering will come to an end. Christmas for 2018 will be done. Only New Year’s Eve will be left until we all get back to what resembles “normal” life.

I’m not really one of those people who get into Christmas. It really isn’t the actual day I mind so much. It’s the non-stop partying and gatherings that start at Thanksgiving and go through New Year’s Day. It’s the barrage of ads that start before Halloween.

Stuff & Small Talk

computerYou see, I really have pretty much all I want in the way of stuff. So does my wife. Sure, there is always some nice trinket or gadget that might be nice. None of it is really necessary. We don’t do a lot of decorations since it’s really just the two of us and we don’t “entertain”. So, for us, and especially me, it’s all about go to this place or that and eating a lot of food that is tasty but not really good for my weight and general well being. It’s about engaging in a lot of small talk or telling “war stories” of what it’s like to be in the real estate “trenches”. It’s about seeing people you really only see once a year.

I’m not really good at small talk. I follow sports just enough to nod and smile and say things like, “They’ll do better next year if they get a new quarterback.”.

Politics is too toxic.

So, it gets around to “How’s work?” or, for me, “How’s the market?”. That’s the catch all question people have about real estate. I know and they know that they don’t really care about “the market”. They’re not really in “the market” to sell their house. They just want to hear that maybe, just maybe, when they do get around to moving on their house might bring in some cash.

It’s just something to talk about. Small talk.


The other thing, of course, is the food. Lots of it. Mostly sweet things. Cookies, cakes, exotic sweets of all kinds. If it’s not the sweets it’s the mountains of mashed potatoes and pounds and pounds of ham or turkey and rolls.

Weight is an issue with me.

In August of 2016 I decided to start Weight Watchers (again!) and I was determined to stick with it.  It would be easier this time, I told myself, because I wouldn’t have to go to meetings where I was the only man. I could consult with a coach over the phone and do the rest online. I did really well for about seven months. Lost about 45 lbs. Then, being so proud of myself, I started giving into the temptation of the things I liked to eat. Things like cookies and cake and ice cream and turkey and ham and rolls.

This gets particularly bad around this time of year. I tell myself I’m just going to have “a little bit” or “just one”. Doesn’t happen. Never has. So, the pounds creep back on. Thankfully, I haven’t put it all back on. Thankfully, there are only two more food events left.

Not that reading helps but I’ve started reading Life is Hard Food is Easy : The 5-step plan to Overcome emotional Eating and Lose Weight on Any Diet which is an easy to read and intuitive book about eating when it’s not really hunger that’s driving what I put in my mouth.


The other thing that’s given me some inspiration is a blog post I would not have normally seen but for the miracle of Facebook. A fellow Realtor out in Fresno, CA wrote a post on his real estate website about his weight loss journey and the catalyst got him going – 11 things I’ve learned while losing 135 poundsIt’s really pretty inspirational. To be sure, his plan doesn’t work for everyone or even for me. I’m not going to hire a personal trainer, for example. But there is plenty of other things in the post that provide, er, food for thought.

I also came across another interesting site – Simple Reminders – that is a combination of quickie inspirational quotes combined with blog posts from a variety of people. The thing I like about it is that the quotes and little inspirational things aren’t all fluff. A lot of them recognize that we will experience defeat and failure and adversity that we may not be able to overcome. Sometimes there are hard choices. It’s not all zippedy-do-dah. Yes, there is also a book. Although in Kindle version only.

A Small Reflection

As I head into 2018, I want to be able to be clearer about what I want out of life. I want to be able to get more out of life. This may mean turning away business or referring some types of business to other Realtors I know and trust.

I’ve started a New Year’s Resolutions list.

Yeah. One of them is to lose weight and eat right. Another is a financial goal. Hopefully, I can get there. I want to. I wrote them down (really, I typed them out) and plan to look at them.

I’m not one to shout “Yeah! I’m already there! Rah! Rah! Rah!”  Yes, I want to achieve my goals.

We’ll see how it turns out.

About Ken Montville

Ken Montville is a Realtor® and Associate Broker with RE/MAX United Real Estate in the beautiful Maryland Suburbs of Washington, DC. He has been selling nice homes since 1999. Way back in the 20th Century.

When Ken Is not doing the real estate thing he can be found all over social media in places too numerous to mention and he listens to jazz, reads a little (mostly non-fiction), hangs out with the Rotary Club of College Park, MD and can be found blogging at